as human beings, we have a nature to lie to ourselves. what seperates the strong from the weak is the ability to acknowledge one's faults as much as possible. a true weak person does not bother. it can be quite paradoxical obviously. if you have no basis to assume a fabricated state of mind, then what is the purpose? this does not mean you should pity yourself. being able to catch yourself in your own lies and come to terms with who you truly are is to love yourself.